Failing Good

Club Monaco coat & gloves, jeans c/o Fidelity Denim, scarf c/o Gap Canada
BCBG clutch, sunnies c/o SmartBuyGlasses, T c/o Jacob , earrings c/o Poshlocket
Two bright things to start your weekend off right: 1. this peach/fuchsia jolt of colour via Gap Canada, livening up an otherwise neutral look, and 2. this amazing article by Marie Forleo on why feeling like a failure can actually be a blessing in disguise. Maybe it’s the motivational psych major in me or maybe it’s the fact that from my own experience, my low points have actually taught me quite a few valuable lessons (not to mention I’m only very recently emerging from a bit of a rough patch), but something about this article really struck a chord with me.

What I really took from the whole thing is that even if you feel like a failure in the moment (which we all do at some point or another, some of us more than others [I’m definitely the former]), the important thing is to never lose that deep faith/trust that you can get yourself to where you need to be one day. And on the way, you experience failures and successes of all magnitudes and learn to roll with the punches, turn your mistakes into lessons and move forward to your ultimate goal.

And like Russell Simmons says in the article, not everyone’s going to get it. You’re not always going to get affirmation for your decisions, no matter what your path is or what part of your life is being met with some opposition (choosing not to marry, an unconventional career move, etc). Having deep trust in yourself and your plans means persevering even if hataaas or close ones just don’t understand why you’re doing what you’re doing…within reason, of course. Like Dory says, you’ve got to just keep swimming.

So wow, obviously I read too many Oprah updates on Twitter last night (she’s in town at the moment and I’m almost overwhelmed with O-spiration). But seriously, check out Marie, she’s so inspiring and I love her messages of empowerment, all delivered in a modern and completely relatable way.

Oh and PS, I cut my hair! It was so long, we had to cut part of it with me standing behind the chair. I have so many layers in front that I never noticed how freakishly long it was getting in the back. Anyway, still need to wait for my “bangs,” i.e. the limp little pieces around my face, to grow out entirely (WHYYY did I ever get them), but in about three months’ time we can do an even more blunt cut! Oh and I finally found my Vancouver stylist…Nura at Ka!Boom was amazing and I’ll definitely be seeing her from now on. Would definitely recommend her to any Vancouverite looking to trim their tresses.

Happy weekend everyone!

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42 Comments

  1. 1.25.13
    Sasha said:

    Love that this coat actually has two shades of brown color in it! Makes it much more interesting and stand out.

  2. 1.25.13

    love the bright scarf — reminds me that spring is hopefully right around the corner! xo

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  3. 1.25.13
    Alissa said:

    That scarf is from Gap? I freaking love it! I am not a neon person but this just looks so good!

  4. 1.25.13
    KenzeLee said:

    I love this look, I probably would have nixed the scarf and kept it neutral for a more polished look but I like that you take chances!

    X Kenzie

    http://www.CaveGirlintheCity.com

  5. 1.25.13
    Cee said:

    Loving the new cut, pally – nothing to drastic but a lovely clean-up 🙂 The bright scarf really sets off your shorter hair and lovely features. Oh a those flats? Too pretty! Seriously. Looking forward to more skype chatting this weekend 🙂
    xox,
    Cee

  6. 1.25.13
    Naomi said:

    Love the bright cheery scarf!

    The Occasional Indulgence

  7. 1.25.13

    such a cute look! love your bright scarf 🙂

    xoxo,

    Fashion Fractions

  8. 1.25.13
    Simona said:

    Amazing look Alexandra!:)
    xx

  9. 1.25.13

    Really nice look:)

  10. 1.25.13
    Wren KW said:

    I always have to stand behind the chair when I get my hair cut. It is so awkward. And I loved that article and the site in general. Such good advice.

    Also love the bright pink with the neutral coat.

  11. 1.25.13

    love the pop of coral/pink from your scarf! love the look! x

    & Pretty Things

  12. 1.25.13

    That scarf has my name on it. Want! Now, I will check out your links.

  13. 1.25.13

    I love the pop of bright pink in this look, such a great way to brighten any look. And that article sounds really awesome, I have definitely learned so much from my low points, and as painful as they were I wouldn't change a thing. Definitely the right attitude to have, it's so important to believe in yourself.
    And finding a good stylist is so awesome! I bet you're loving the new length
    xJennaD

  14. 1.25.13
    Lisa said:

    The scarf just lights up all the neutrals in your ensemble.

  15. 1.25.13

    Great oufit! You're scarf is so cute! Although low points are terrible, I try to learn from them when I can and try to see the bigger picture. I definitely trust myself to persevere through the toughest times.
    ~Sara

  16. 1.25.13

    your scarf & that lipstick look so perfect together!

    xo Jackie
    …livingaftermidnite

  17. 1.25.13
    Melissa V said:

    you look amazing! x

  18. 1.25.13

    That coat is amazing, you look gorgeous, love the pop of colour

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    x

  19. 1.25.13

    I will definitely have to check out that article, thanks for sharing! And you look gorgeous – your outfit is so chic & pretty! Love the colours in the scarf.

    Ali xo

  20. 1.25.13
    Kacie said:

    That neon scarf is amazing and really pops off this outfit!

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  21. 1.25.13
    Megan said:

    Love your bright scarf! Such a fun pop of color for winter 🙂 And I'm headed to check out the article… I definitely think the low points in our roads lead to becoming better, more well-rounded people, so it sounds right up my alley! Have a great weekend 🙂

  22. 1.25.13

    looove that colour splash in your outfit, looks great!

    xx, Sabinna and David
    Broken Cookies

  23. 1.26.13
    Sam said:

    Love the neon shaded scarf, adds a beautiful flash of colour to your chic and urbane look!Thanks for your lovely comment! Have a wonderful weekend!

  24. 1.26.13
    Ramona said:

    Such a classic and lady like look! I so admire your clutch, so fab.

    xoxo Ra

  25. 1.26.13
    jules said:

    love love the scarf!

    xo julesinflats.com

  26. 1.26.13

    You look lovely in your minimalistic outfit.

    Also , I believe , he tougher the situation is , calmer you be .
    Sooner or later you will get the grip .
    & as you rightly said believe in self .

    Love
    Muse

  27. 1.26.13

    I love this outfit, and I love the pop of color your scarf gives! Also, I love your hair, it looks gorgeous! 🙂

  28. 1.26.13

    Such a beautiful scarf and it really compliments your complexion! Gorgeous look:)!

  29. 1.26.13
    Well... said:

    That bright scarf! Oh wow, its so colorful and fun 😀 I love it with this outfit especially.
    Btw, I love your new blog layout 🙂

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  30. 1.26.13
    Kati said:

    Thank you so much for your sweet comment! Love the scarf!

    Have a lovely weekend,
    -Kati

  31. 1.26.13

    Wow, love the bright scarf with the otherwise neutral coloured outfit. The clutch is so fab too! And nice writing, can totally relate to it.

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  32. 1.26.13
    Carmen said:
  33. 1.26.13

    This is beautiful. Your hair is magical.

    Cherokee
    You Should Be In Sweden

  34. 1.27.13

    How do you always manage to look so effortlessly chic? You
    amaze me!
    xoAmy
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  36. 1.28.13

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  37. 1.28.13
    Izzy said:

    your style and photo quality are amazing! love that bright pop of colour the scarf creates <3

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  38. 1.28.13

    Hi,

    That's a really pretty coat and i just love the pop of colour!

    Txx

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  39. 1.29.13
    thanias said:

    Loveee your look 🙂 Stunning!!

    xx,

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  40. 1.29.13

    This is definitely a fav look of yours! Totally beautiful, love the scarf, love the glasses, love your hair! x

  41. 1.29.13
    C.E.B. said:

    I really love that clutch. Fabulous!

    XxMadame Ostrich

    http://www.madame-ostrich.com

  42. 1.29.13

    Love your shoes and that scarf is super cute!

    xo
    Caroline

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