Sometimes, despite your best efforts at reframing your perspectives or attitudes to stay positive, some days (or weeks) just don’t go your way. That was last week for me. Things just weren’t working out…some communication seemed to get muddled, I felt like the hours I was plugging into work were going into a black hole and all my door-knocking felt like it was simply falling on deaf ears.
Simply believing that things will work out has always been very hard for me to do, probably for the same reasons that I’m terrified of flying or am such a horrible backseat driver: I hate not having control or a feeling of efficacy in any given situation. The philosophies and ideals that have always resonated most with me are all about free will: whether it’s Cal’s ability to overcome what seemed like the inherent evil in him in East of Eden or William James’ philosophies that helped him overcome recurring bouts of depression, I’m a big believer in determining what you want and simply making it happen, in spite of what your perceived limitations might be. While that’s helped me achieve a number of my big goals in life, sometimes constantly pushing to hit certain achievements within certain time frames with little to no self-compassion when it comes to failing can also be incredibly exhausting.
There are times (like when you’re on a plane, or when you’ve sent out an important email/application and simply need to wait for a response) that the power is simply not in your hands. You need to just let things be. And this week, though it may go against my grain, I think I need to just focus on new ideas and projects and let the other ones develop as they will. And since I’m giving myself a break, I feel like this is a pretty opportune moment to remind all of you to be a bit more lenient with yourselves if and when it’s needed too – for some reason, I find so many other girls in my generation are just as hard on themselves as I am, and really, we’re all going to look back on all this worrying and self-criticsm when we’re 80-years-old and think “what a waste of time.” So like Bobby McFerrin advises, “don’t worry, be happy!” Simple yet succinct.
Another thing: don’t forget about the “little things” when you’re focused more than ever on the “big things.” I haven’t bought a new lipstick, treated myself to a mani or even done an at-home facial in weeks, and those are the things that inexplicably boost my happiness so much. That’s why the arrival of a lovely little present from my stunning fellow blogger Kate of O My Heart! could not be better timed. Kate not only has a blog that is chock-full of glam-yet-approachable style inspiration, but she’s also got a beautiful Etsy shop that is filled with covet-worthy pieces like this lovely rope bracelet with an anchor charm. Perfect for layering!
And speaking of jewelry, don’t forget to enter my INPINK giveaway! Today’s the last day to enter and if you haven’t read my previous posts about it, aside from the 30 winners who score $30 online vouchers, everyone who enters will win $15! It’s easy-as-can-be to enter so simply hop on over before the contest closes!